Holiday Advice
I’m not big on advice, but what the heck, it’s my blog. So here it is. It might be fun to practice savoring during the holidays. When savoring, one experiences the specifics and detail of the present moment. Noticing all the different aspects of an experience might include sounds, smells, textures, tastes, and emotions. For […]
4 Strategies for Combating Holiday Overwhelm
The holidays are marketed as the “most wonderful time of the year” For me, they often feel like the most overwhelming time of the year. I have learned that if I do not schedule some time for recovery and self-care, it does not go well. Recovery is defined as “a return to a normal or […]
You Are Not Alone
You Are Not Alone Family relationships are not always easy. There are divorces, stepparents, siblings, and sibling rivalries. Step-brothers and sisters, half-brothers and sisters, in-laws. Aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents. Deaths. Births. All of these and all of the possible combinations. Family dynamics are complex, and then you throw in the personalities of […]
It’s not the boulder but the small pebbles that create ripples that last a lifetime.
Yes, something large and traumatic is the perfect reason you need to decide it is time to cut off a narcissistic from their supply (you). However, it’s the small pebbles that continually drop that create multiple ripples that affect us for decades. We rationalize the pebbles, “it was a small pebble, they did not mean […]
Our toxic relationship cycle, continued
When you start to unpack the dynamic between my mother and me, you pick out classic narcissism signs with her behavior toward me and my reactions. When I first read Will, I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D. It was such an eye-opener; I highlighted pages, […]
Our toxic relationship cycle
It has been about two weeks since the blow-up with my mother. It has the classic earmark of falling into the cycle of our toxic relationship. Build up –> Explosion (fight) –> Silent Treatment (Stonewalling) –> Nothing Happened (gaslights and blameshifting). However, I feel different this time. • It’s okay to let go of a […]
Time to say good bye
I cried today, like absolutely bawling my eyes out cried today, in front of my kids, on the phone with my ex-husband. It was raw, honest, and exactly what I need to solidify my choices to shore up my boundaries against my very toxic narcissistic mother. What is Narcissism? The DSM-5 defines narcissistic personality disorder […]
How to Support Your Partner or Children with Anxiety: 5 Things to Try
If you’ve never struggled with anxiety, anxiety attacks, panic, or excessive worry, then it may be challenging for you to know how to support people in your life when they do. Being someone that has had GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) for most of my life, it can be challenging to feel understood. Even having an […]
Anxiety, the thief of mental peace
And what about the feelings that this state suggests to you? Have you found yourself thinking and projecting something that is just about to happen but doesn’t depend on you to change the course of its direction? Have you realized that you can lose focus on the present because your mind is projecting a future […]
Healing Your Past With Meditation
We all know it is not possible to roll back time or undo or change bad decisions we made in the past, however using meditation we can change the way we feel about the bad decisions we made in the past so that they will stop tormenting us here in the present. We all carry […]